4 Ways to Create Confidence in Kids


I would love to see my children’s confidence grow as vast as can be. Confidence in who they are, who they want to become, a new talent that they would like to try. Confidence that they can do whatever they put their mind to. Confidence on the first day of school and throughout the entire year. So how does a parent do that?

Young girl plays with bubbles in a green coatCreate confidence from a young age

Confidence is built by what they know. Kids mostly start out in a state of humility. That isn’t a bad thing; humility is a great trait. Humility keeps the door open to learning unknown things. Show your child that it is OK to not know, and not to focus of the negative of unknowing. This just is a new opportunity to build confidence in a new skill, and as long as they keep trying, they are never failing.

Begin with a secure attachment

A child having a secure attachment will, in turn, help them develop healthy relationships. Human beings of all ages are at their happiest and most confidence when they are with their person. That attachment will help your child become more socially and emotionally confident as they age.

Confidence-building activities

Work by setting realistic goals, anything as simple as putting on their own coat or picking up their toys. Once they see that they can meet their goals, their confidence will grow and they will start to believe in themselves. Some ideas include:

  • Cook together (This option can be messy… heck ,it can be messy even without a kid involved!).
  • Do a scavenger hunt.
  • Push their limits, just slightly and safely! For young kids this could be something as simple as swimming lessons, learning to jump, pushing off of a skateboard. But, of course, use the proper safety gear and stay close by.
  • Have a dance party! Instant confidence booster right there, and it’s always a sure way to cheer anyone up.
  • Let them lead a walk, hike or bike ride. Just make sure you remember the way back!

Daily affirmations starting in the morning and ending at night

Set the [confidence] tone for the day by starting with a positive affirmation while you’re getting your little one up for the day. Pinterest is full of great ways to get ideas. Put them up by the changing table or on the closet door. And, before that goodnight kiss, spend just a few minutes ending the day by reflecting out the positives and gratitudes.

Remove self-limiting beliefs

Nip this one in the bud. Don’t even let your kid get themselves down with negative words likes “I can’t,” “too hard,” or “I give up.” Boost their confidence by altering these terms to reflect more positivity. Instead, show them that everything is hard before it is easy. Reassure them they are still learning, to keep trying, and they are on the right track. 

In the end, all you can do is to mindfully build their confidence as best you can. Hopefully, these tools bring you your own confidence in doing so!

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New to the area as of March of 2021, Samantha is originally from a small town in the Colorado Mountains. Her husband took on a job in Troutdale, giving her the opportunity to be a SAHM to their two young children. Stryder is almost 2 and as wild as they come, and Aspen, who has only been earthside 2 months, but fills the world with bright smiles every day. Outdoor exploration is her number one goal, whether it be hiking, camping, snowboarding, snowshoeing or kayaking… as long as its outside, she’s happy! Watching her son blossom into an outdoor enthusiast just like her is something that life never prepared her for, in the best way possible. They are often out on a trail, at the park, or finding a unique local spot that has fun offerings for the littles. However, being a SAHM wasn’t cutting it, so she took it upon herself to explore as much as she could with this time at home with her kids. She started a virtual assisting business, is diving into the world of e-commerce and is taking her love of art to newer and bigger levels while experimenting with different mediums. Eventually she might end back up at a 9-5, but until then, she’ll be trying out life’s other opportunities!