To me, single motherhood can be summed up in one word: Late.
I wake up late, the kids are never to school on time, I spend most of my day running behind, I go to bed way too late. My to-do list is never complete and most of what I accomplish is late too.
And let me tell you, for this hardworking, punctual perfectionist, it hasn’t been easy. I want to do all the things, and do them well and on time.
Now, to be fair, I have way too much on my plate, which tends to define the life of a single mom. Too much to do, not even time to do it in, and never enough help or money to go around.
And the truth is, I struggle.
Becoming a single mother has been the most humbling experience. I simply cannot do it all, or do it all well, and no matter which way I turn, I could see where I’m falling short.
Trying desperately to adjust to new single mom life, I found myself apologizing endlessly. Which then made me feel like a failure, constantly apologizing for not being “enough”.
Then at some point, I realized it was dangerous to constantly apologize for something I don’t do intentionally. Because the reality is: I do my best. Every day, I work so hard to do all the things, for everyone.
And so, I shifted my language to one of gratitude.
“Thank you for waiting for me.”
“Thank you for accepting me.”
“Thank you for following up.”
Let me tell you, there are plenty of these to go around. And there probably will be for a while.
I’m about a year into single motherhood, and I know I’ll get to the point where my tardiness becomes less of the norm. But for now, I will keep working like crazy to be everywhere and do everything on time.
And for everyone who has extended my such beautiful grace, and accepted me late and underprepared, thank you. I’m so grateful for you.
Jenelle is a single mama to two boys, ages 6 and 2.5, who owns her own business and does all the things, for everyone, all the time, just like you. Through her divorce, she embraced radical self-care and gratitude habits, which paved the way for a business supporting all the moms who put everyone else first.
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